I’m going to keep this short today.
Not sure if you’ve noticed this by now, but writing a book is really hard.
Like… I don’t think I’ve ever done anything more difficult in my life type of hard.
You need support. Whether it’s a writing partner or a writer’s group – you need someone. Don’t make it harder on yourself by going through it alone. Here’s why a writing partner is awesome:
1. You get to talk about writing with them.
This might sound like a joke, but it isn’t. Have you ever tried to explain your novel to someone who isn’t a writer and then watched as a thin film glazes their eyes after 30 seconds of you talking about fixing your problem with chapter five?
Yeah, non-writers don’t care about writing. They might care about you, which obligates them to stay in that conversation about chapter five, but they really have no idea what you’re talking about.
A writer friend would be enthralled to hear all your woes with chapter five. They’re a rare breed. You can bounce ideas off them, vent about anything in your way, and ask for advice.
Writer friends don’t take shit from you. If you say, “I think my foreshadowing in chapter five is a little heavy-handed. I’ve been revising it for three days to try to find a good balance.”
Your friend will say, “You haven’t finished your first draft yet. Cut the shit. Write, don’t edit!” (Or they would say that but in a much nicer way.)
Another great perk about writing partners is they are side-by-side with you, working in the trenches day-in and day-out. (I’m not sure if I’m supposed to hyphenate that, and I’m past the point of caring right now to even Google it. I’ll let the comment section dictate my failing or winning on this front).
That’s what I need in a writing partner. I need someone who is battling the same monsters so mine don’t seem as big and scary.
Your writing partner can empathize with you. They’ve been where you are, and they actually care (unlike non-writers).
Is this starting to sound like a cult? Anyone else getting that, or is it just me?
Not many writers are blessed to be surrounded by a community of other authors. If you have that, then you’re lucky. If you’re like me where you have to go out into the scary world and find others, let me tell you, it’s worth it when you get someone who is willing to hold you accountable and spur you on to reach your goals.
Because holy crap, writing a book is hard. I want to find every single way I can game the system and make it easier on myself.
Question of the day: Do you have a writing partner/group? If yes, then how did you find them? If not, then what’s stopping you from getting one this week?